As someone recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, one thing that’s been helping me grapple with the intense shame I have over all my “wasted potential” is accepting that potential doesn’t exist and never did.
This sounds so harsh, but please bare with me.
I procrastinated a lot growing up. I still procrastinate today, but less so. And yet, I got good grades. I could write an A+ paper that “knocked [my professor]’s socks off” in the hour before class and print it with sweat running down my face.
I was so used to hearing from teachers and family that if I just didn’t procrastinate and worked all the time, I could do anything! I had all this potential I wasn’t living up to!
And that’s true, as far as it goes, but that’s like saying if Usain Bolt just kept going he could be the fastest marathon runner in the world. Why does he stop at the end of the race??
If ANYONE could make their top speed/most productive setting the one they used all the time, anyone could do anything. But you can’t. Your top speed is not a speed you’re able to sustain.
Now, I’ve found that I do need to work on not procrastinating. Not because the product is better, even, but because it’s better for my mental health and physical health to not have a full, sweating, panicked breakdown over every task even if the task itself turns out excellently. It’s a shitty way to live! You feel bad ALL the time! And I don’t deserve to live like that anymore.
So all of this to say, I’m not wasting a ton of potential. I don’t have an ocean of productivity and accomplishments inside of me that I could easily, effortlessly access if I just sat down 8 hours a day and worked. There’s no fucking way. That’s not real. It’s an illusion. It’s fine not to live up to an illusion.
And if you have ADHD, I mean this from the bottom of my heart: you do not have limitless potential confounded by your laziness. You have the good potential of a good person, and you can access it with practice and work, but do not accept the story that you are choosing not to be all that you are or can be. You are just a human person.
The beginning to this song is so pretty ugh
EXCUSE ME WHILE I CRY OVER NOT KNOWING THIS SONG EXISTED
You will recognize it.
Trust me.
This is glorious.
I will always reblog this
MY FUCKING FACE WHEN I REALIZED WHAT SONG THEY’RE PLAYING.
We’re something like “Netflix and Chill” but it ain’t no Nextlix 😍😍😍
Wow, you are so beautiful
^^^^^
Please dear god, who are you and finish this damn Song.
guitarsandcontrabandx you’d like this!!
Wow ❤️❤️
When that beat dropped….
Looooooove
So where the full track doe?????
DO YOU REMEMBER THESE?
Lupe reminisces on the movies that helped create a generation. The title could also be a play on the whole concept of this song. These movies were good and entertaining upon watching them, but in the long run, too many of them painted a stereotype that was detrimental to the masses. In the same way fast food double burgers with cheese are tasty upon eating them, but too many of them are detrimental to your health in the long run. These movies are in fact “double burgers with cheese.”
call me by areatha franklin is such an intimate song like I really feel likr I’m boarding a train headed for manhattan in the 1920s leaving my sweetheart whos staying behind in our backwater town to look after his sick mother
it feels good to know that some people kiss for the first time today, some people finally get their dream job, some people finish reading their favorite book, some people get over someone, some people win against their disorder, some people have a baby, some people go on vacation, some people reunite, some people find a new favorite song, some people sleep next to each other, some people live today, some people survive today.
EVERYTHING EVERYWHERE ALL AT ONCE
2022 | dir. Daniel Kwan, Daniel Scheinert
– I’m just telling you now in case my mom says something dumb like you’re fat or whatever.
– I thought you said when she says shit like that, it means she cares.
